Q Is it ok for me to cut up my ex’s clothes before I return them? The main thing is to first think about your actions and all of the possible consequences that may arise.  Maybe also think about what your actions will achieve.
Q What do you do or say to help if your friend is in an unhealthy relationship? It can be really hard to watch your close friend stay in an unhealthy relationship but the most important thing you can do is to be there for your friend and support them no matter what their decision is (if they stay in the relationship or break up). Talking and listening to your friend shows that you care and this may also help your friend realise that they may not be in a respectful relationship.  It’s important not to blame your friend for the relationship or tell them to leave. Instead ask them if there is anything you can do to help, let them know about the support services in school or in your community that may be helpful.  For more information check out our page on Intimate  Partner Violence for tips on what to do & say to a friend who may be in an unhealthy relationship.
Q How do I break up with my abuser? Breaking up with an abusive partner can be very different from breaking up with someone who isn’t abusive. Because abusers believe that they are entitled to control you, they may not let you break up with them. If you’re considering breaking up with an abusive partner it’s important to talk it though with an adult you trust. You may want to fill out a safety plan to help you stay safe. You will need to be prepared for your abuser trying to ‘win you back’. Writing a list of all the reasons why you weren’t happy in the relationship may help you stay strong.   Click here to download a PDF factsheet.
Q What is the best way to handle a situation if you don’t give consent and they continue? If you have been sexually assaulted the most important thing to remember is that it’s not your fault. This is a really frightening situation to be in and can make you feel extremely disempowered.  Because all of us are different and every situation is different we may react in different ways.  It’s important to remember that if you haven’t given consent and the other person continues they have committed a sexual crime. Usually when we are confronted by a threat, our survival instinct will kick in and there are several ways we might respond.  We could either go into what is called a flight, fight or freeze mode. Whatever your instinctive reaction is it’s important to realise that you have done exactly what you needed to do in that moment to keep yourself safe and the only person at fault is the person that sexually assaulted you. If you have been sexually assaulted there is a number support options available check out our Sexual Assault page for more information.