Q Is it ok for me to cut up my ex’s clothes before I return them? The main thing is to first think about your actions and all of the possible consequences that may arise.  Maybe also think about what your actions will achieve.
Q What can you do about domestic violence if you’re told to keep it a secret? Having to keep a secret like that is really hard, particularly if it’s in your family, or if you’re concerned about the safety and wellbeing of another person.  Sometimes, but certainly not always, talking about the violence can make it worse if you’re given the wrong advice or if the person you talk to tells the wrong people at the wrong time. However, it is really important that you talk to someone who you can trust and who will be able to help you know what to do.  There are a number of people in school that you can talk to such as guidance officers/counsellors; there are also many community support services that specialise in domestic violence counselling.  For more information, check out our page on Intimate Partner Violence and how to support someone experiencing this.
Q What do you do if your best friend starts dating someone you really like? AND What do you do when someone you like likes you back but your best friend tries to take them off of you? Think about how you are going to react before you do anything. You may feel jealous, hurt and betrayed by your friend and rejected and hurt by your crush. These are all really big and painful emotions and you need to sort through them before you do or say anything that might hurt you further. Think about if you want to save your friendship. Is your friend acting in a way to purposely hurt you? Does your friend know about how you feel towards the person they are now dating? If you decide to end the friendship, you should decide how to break up with your friend in a respectful and dignified way.
Q What is foreplay? Foreplay is any sexual activity that happens before penetrative sex, for example; kissing, touching, digital penetration and mutual masturbation. It is a way for both males and females to become physiologically and emotionally ready for sex and can certainly increase the pleasure for both of you throughout sex. It is also a way to explore and experiment what does and what doesn’t excite your partner. It’s really important to communicate with each other during the process so that each of you knows what the other is comfortable with. Don’t be afraid to speak up if you are uncomfortable and continually check-in with your partner to make sure they are consenting and comfortable throughout the entire process.