Q Why are women always half naked and men fully clothed in music vids? It’s pretty silly isn’t it? It’s not just in music vids though – it seems that a lot of popular culture believes that women should be half (or mostly!) naked while the men that they are dancing around are fully clothed. This buys in to the idea that women are sexually available ALL of the time and that men want sex ALL of the time and are entitled to sex all of the time  – but not with real women, only with sexually available women who are skinny, tanned, big breasted, big bootied and  very flexible.  Doesn’t sound much like real life does it?
Q Would you send a topless photo of yourself to your boyfriend? A lot of young people are confronted by this issue in their relationships. It is important to consider the consequences of sending a picture.  It is really important that you think about why you are doing it and what could happen if you do send a picture.  Some of the possible things that could happen include:
  • Legal ramifications (young people being charged with producing and distributing child pornography),
  • Viral distribution of the image/s (once you send that image you have no control over where it goes or who gets to see it).
  • Break-ups.  If you and your partner break up, what could happen with the image ... how would you feel about friends, family, teachers, work mates seeing the image?
It is something that might seem fun and harmless at the time but it is a big risk.  There are also other ways to be intimate and have fun with your partner.
Q Why do people abuse? People abuse their partner because they believe that they are entitled to more power and control in the relationship than their partner is. They may see their partner as someone that they ‘own’. They may have bought in to the popular culture myth that men are dominant and aggressive and women are passive and submissive. However, it’s important to remember that it is never the abused partners’ fault – no matter what the abuser says. The myth that some abused people like the abuse is just that – a myth. Nobody likes being abused and nobody asks for it.
Q What do you do if your best friend starts dating someone you really like? AND What do you do when someone you like likes you back but your best friend tries to take them off of you? Think about how you are going to react before you do anything. You may feel jealous, hurt and betrayed by your friend and rejected and hurt by your crush. These are all really big and painful emotions and you need to sort through them before you do or say anything that might hurt you further. Think about if you want to save your friendship. Is your friend acting in a way to purposely hurt you? Does your friend know about how you feel towards the person they are now dating? If you decide to end the friendship, you should decide how to break up with your friend in a respectful and dignified way.